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Gambling and High-Yield, High-Risk Investing => Betting Gaming and Sports Arbitrage => Topic started by: Larry on July 04, 2011, 02:22:46 PM



Title: How do I prove I am not addicted to gambling?
Post by: Larry on July 04, 2011, 02:22:46 PM
I enjoy sports betting but I don't feel I am complusive. I only place a few $1 bets a few times a week, but I don't do it to the point where I either don't have enough money or know for certain that I can't win a certain bet. My wife knows I gamble, but I'm using my own personal money to place wagers. She's afraid that things can get worse but I have re-assured her time and time again that I will not let it affect us and I do it in a very responsible manner. I enjoy doing it and I have not gotten to the point where I lost money. Matter of fact, I've been doing pretty well. I don't feel I need to gamble, I just do it to have fun. Is there a way to tell her that I'm not over doing it and to assure her that I'm not going to do it a point where it becomes too much?


Title: Re: How do I prove I am not addicted to gambling?
Post by: Kirsten_Anderson on July 04, 2011, 03:10:44 PM
The only way to prove you are not addicted is to stop completely for quite a while. Most addicts don't think they are but they don't seem to be able to prove it by giving up.


Title: Re: How do I prove I am not addicted to gambling?
Post by: Sarah_Murphy__ on July 05, 2011, 09:18:39 AM
You could make a budget or a limit that she is okay with. As long as you don't go over it, she can't tell you "It's getting worse". Or better yet, stop for a couple weeks. Hope I helped a little!


Title: Re: How do I prove I am not addicted to gambling?
Post by: C_T on July 05, 2011, 10:18:55 AM
It will become an addiction when you aren't in control over your own behaviour: here is how to deal with it:...

Put down some rigid rules on your gambling behaviour. Once you see yourself breaking these rules, no matter what you tell yourself afterwards, you know you are addicted!

If you have broken your rules once, you'll probably do it again. You will find excuses for it, to still continue with this behaviour.

Once you've broken your own rules, quit gambling completely for a while (6months or so maybe longer), then you can retest yourself. If you break them twice, quit gambling for ever! (because you have lost control over your own behaviour)

Good luck!


Title: Re: How do I prove I am not addicted to gambling?
Post by: LegFuJohnson on July 05, 2011, 10:21:45 AM
Nope.  She will never trust you.

Good luck with the rest of the marriage.  You might be better off telling her that you quit, and keep the $1 bets secret.


Title: Re: How do I prove I am not addicted to gambling?
Post by: Ranger4402 on July 05, 2011, 10:27:37 AM
You prove it by proving gambling does not control your life.  If your bills get paid on time and in full and you don't lose things such as your job, friends, or family due to your gambling then that is compelling evidence you are in control.

For many gambling is a harmless hobby no different from going to the opera or symphony.   Instead of buying season subscription to the opera a person choose to use that money to have fun gambling.  

Some folks scoff at my theory on this.  But I tell them this.  When you pay money to be entertained by an opera, a movie or a symphony, there is no guarantee you will be entertained.  Even the best performers have off nights.  When you gamble you pretty much know you'll lose over the long run.  But if you really enjoy gambling then you'll have fun losing that money.  So opera or gambling you pay for both and you may have fun at both.


Title: Re: How do I prove I am not addicted to gambling?
Post by: kewldude471 on July 05, 2011, 10:41:04 AM
If that dollar keeps you entertained by making the outcome of a sports game seem important, then it's not much of a problem. You probably spend more than a dollar on food during the game.

Why don't you just make bets with her so the money stays between you and your wife?